Ok, here is an answer from someone who runs a DBPro server on a dedicated machine. I run my own hosting, so I know what I'm doing.
Forget about the built in networking commands. They are based on DirectPlay and unless you are only supporting a few players, they stink.
Multisync is a great free alternative, and if you require encryption and (when he adds it) compression, DarkNet is my favorite choice.
- Windows 2003 Server will NOT work. Even if it supports DX9. The DBPro app either freezes or gives an error about finding the video card. It's just something about the way they did the graphics on the server that doesn't work.
- Windows 2008 Server MIGHT work, but I wouldn't count on it.
- You will need a desktop OS installed. (XP or Win7)
- RealVNC will work for remote control if you don't use any graphics on the server app. Make your server screen text only and it will work. I do it all the time.
Finding someone that will host a desktop OS might be difficult if not impossible. If I can set up one of my new servers with VMWare and run a few copies of XP on it, I might consider hosting some game servers. I've got the right facilities and a 25/25mbit fiber connection.
Let me know the best quotes you've gotten for hosting and I'll see if I can match or beat that price. Email me if you like.