Funny, never hear dof SAO, o well, still a lot to learn in this mammoth.
Anyway, I understnad what you mean about the concepts. If you were having an asp.net client code that was passing data via the browser to a server (which it is), and in turn the server was saying "Right, got that, thanks, away you go", the browser received this and before it went back to page 1, it called another web-page that activated some code on a server in a top-secret location, then it wouldn't be too hard to do I guess.
BUT...
The last part, as you said, isn't server-side code, it's an actual program.
The only thing I could possibly think of then, would be can't you pass the confirmation to the SQL server, which in turn has a trigger attached, which in turn, runs an activeX control on the SQL Server (or runs a 'mini-program' of what you want to do), which is a call to you code?
Just a thought...
~ J ~